Like many today I got married way to young and for all the wrong reasons. My marriage lasted only a few short years, most of which was spent with me trying to get the divorce I so desperately wanted.
My Ex was in the military and come to find out there are alot of legal mumbo jumbo I still don't understand that makes the process of getting devorced a whole lot harder. I don't understnad how the legal system can tell someone they can't get divorced....I do understand waiting for the custody and visitation if the person in the military cannot attend court at the time, due to being overseas, or deployed....but not let a person divorce them???
It took me 1 1/2 years to finally have my divorce finalized, a process that usually takes only 6 months and to get a support order for our children.
My Ex at this time was stationed in Germany with 2 years left on his contract. Some how he got out of the military...still a mystery to this day on how he pulled that off, but he came home 6 months after I left Germany to start the devorce process.... With a bunch of jumping through hoops and dodging the system he was able to put off our divorce and delay getting a support order....
While all this was going on he didn't try and visit the kids at all
Friday, June 25, 2010
Thursday, June 17, 2010
What Deadbeat Means to Me...
The term deadbeat parent refers to those parents who willingly refuse to take financial responsibility for their children.
In my experiance with my childrens deadbeat father, he took this title to a whole new level. Not only has he not helped support his children for over 7 years, he is continously walking in and out of their lives. There are times he has gone years without seeing them.
So I ask....what do we call these type of people? and what do we think of the system that allows this?
My answer is simple, they are worthless and do not deserve the wonderful children they helped to create. As an active parent, I can not imagine walking in and out of my childrens lives, I cannot imagine not doing everything I can to ensure they have everything they need financially.
The courts say the make their orders "in the childrens best interest" is letting a parent walk in and out of a childs life, constantly bringing them up just to drop them once again really in the childs best interest?? and what about the financial aspect?? How do deadbeats get visitation if they willingly fail to support their children? Wouldn't their inability to pay support show their inability to provide for the children while in their care?? I would think so....
In my experiance with my childrens deadbeat father, he took this title to a whole new level. Not only has he not helped support his children for over 7 years, he is continously walking in and out of their lives. There are times he has gone years without seeing them.
So I ask....what do we call these type of people? and what do we think of the system that allows this?
My answer is simple, they are worthless and do not deserve the wonderful children they helped to create. As an active parent, I can not imagine walking in and out of my childrens lives, I cannot imagine not doing everything I can to ensure they have everything they need financially.
The courts say the make their orders "in the childrens best interest" is letting a parent walk in and out of a childs life, constantly bringing them up just to drop them once again really in the childs best interest?? and what about the financial aspect?? How do deadbeats get visitation if they willingly fail to support their children? Wouldn't their inability to pay support show their inability to provide for the children while in their care?? I would think so....
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
A Voice for the "Good Parents"
After going through the family law system for over 7 years and dealing with the constant dismay and unbelieve decisions of the court I have decided I am tired of feeling alone....I WANT TO BE HEARD!!!
I know there are hundreds of thousands of people out there just like me, who want to be heard, who want their children to be heard...we all have a voice and together we can be heard, together we can bring light to the injustice of the family law system.
Let me start by saying, I understand and agree that all "good parents" should have equal say and equal rights to their children and their childrens lives, but somewhere on the road to reach this equality for all parents it once again became accepted by the court to be a deadbeat parent. In creating this blog I hope to share my story of experiances within the family law system and would like to hear the stories of my fellow "good parents". My hope is to build a support system for eachother, a place to gather, to release, to ask and receive advice. Maybe just maybe if we're loud enough someone will hear our cries and see that there is a wrong being done, a wrong that needs to be changed.
I know there are hundreds of thousands of people out there just like me, who want to be heard, who want their children to be heard...we all have a voice and together we can be heard, together we can bring light to the injustice of the family law system.
Let me start by saying, I understand and agree that all "good parents" should have equal say and equal rights to their children and their childrens lives, but somewhere on the road to reach this equality for all parents it once again became accepted by the court to be a deadbeat parent. In creating this blog I hope to share my story of experiances within the family law system and would like to hear the stories of my fellow "good parents". My hope is to build a support system for eachother, a place to gather, to release, to ask and receive advice. Maybe just maybe if we're loud enough someone will hear our cries and see that there is a wrong being done, a wrong that needs to be changed.
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